Bullying gangs often become violent gangs involved in crime, so schools need to respond pro-actively to bullying to prevent it becoming gangsterism.
According to ChildLine SA, research shows that most children believe that when they report the bullying to an educator nothing is going to be done to stop it.
Educators have to help eliminate bullying by doing the following:
Set an example by treating all children with respect. Never pick on a physical characteristic or a difference when disciplining a child. Teaching children to be assertive and boosting every child’s self-confidence will help them deal with bullies.
All schools should have an anti-bullying policy that seeks to protect all children. It is very important that learners know that all forms of bullying are totally unacceptable within the school.
It is also important to be aware of the needs of a child who is a bully. Bullying behaviour is sometimes a sign that the bully is experiencing problems at home.
Indicate to a bully that their behaviour is unacceptable. In addition, be prepared to work with the bully to help them find alternative ways of behaving.
Bullying hurts and sometimes it makes one want to hurt others. Children may even blame themselves, but it is the behaviour of the bully that is wrong.
Here are a few points to discuss with your child/children regarding bullying:
Tell someone. Do not feel embarrassed, ashamed, afraid to tell someone that you are being hurt or teased, or that your lunch is being stolen.
Do not be silent. Talk to your parents, teachers, big brother or another adult whom you trust. Keep on talking until someone listens and you get help.
Ask the bully to stop. Sometimes people are oblivious to the fact their behaviour is hurting you.
Avoid being alone with the bully. Try to make friends and hang out as a group. Bullies are more likely to trouble you if you are alone.
Believe in yourself. Know that you are a special person.
Compiled by Justine Fortuin
